November 15, 2010

People coming out as gay at younger age, research shows


EastEnders: Syed Masood, played by Marc Elliott
Stonewall says gay people in the public eye – such as Syed Mahmood in Eastenders – have contributed to an increasing confidence in coming out younger. Photograph: BBC

The average age at which people come out as gay, lesbian or bisexual has fallen steadily over the last four decades, according to Stonewall, the gay rights group.
A poll for Stonewall of 1,500 people who were already out found that among the over-60s the average age they had come out was 37. But those in their 30s had come out at an average age of 21, and in the group aged 18 to 24 it was 17.
The survey, conducted via social networking sites, does not take account of the numbers of people who know they are gay or bisexual but have not come out. But Stonewall said it nonetheless revealed a pattern of people having the confidence to come out earlier.
Among the 33 respondents aged over 60 only five had come out under the age of 18. Several had only done so in the last 10 years.
Ruth Hunt, Stonewall's deputy director of public affairs, said: "People are coming out younger and younger.
"Everyone should come out when they feel ready and confident, but this is an encouraging trend and sends a positive message to anyone not yet out: you don't have to wait. Britain is a fairer country than it once was, and support is available to you."
She said the change was likely to be because young people today were given a lot more information about sexuality, and were more likely to see gay people in the public eye, in TV programmes such as Sugar Rush, and soaps such as Emmerdale and EastEnders, with whom they could identify feelings they might be having.
"Older people may not have had the language for it, or necessarily seen other people they knew they were like," Hunt said.
"What we're seeing is an explosion of role models and people talking about being gay, so people are more able to associate what they're feeling with something they can see."
But she added that, although schools were now a better place to be for young people, some teachers and parents were still lagging behind in their willingness to discuss issues of sexuality.
"Young people are coming out in schools across Britain right now," Hunt said. "As lesbian, gay and bisexual pupils become more visible than ever, it's essential schools make things better for them. Some teachers still think it's something private that shouldn't really be talked about, and some parents think that too. They aren't catching up at the same speed."
Stonewall is suggesting that people write to their MPs to ask if schools in their area are using the organisation's resources to tackle homophobic bullying.
Dalia Fleming, 21, who came out when she was 15, said that accessible role models made coming out easier for young people, although there were still not enough.
Changes including the introduction of civil partnerships and the end of Section 28 – which banned the "promotion" of homosexuality in schools – had also helped, she said.


Gay rights protesters demand Obama help end 'don't ask, don't tell'


U.S. Park Police take a protester away Monday during a gay rights demonstration outside the White House.
U.S. Park Police take a protester away Monday during a gay rights demonstration outside the White House.
STORY HIGHLIGHTS
  • Former Army Lt. Dan Choi was among the protesters
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Washington (CNN) -- Thirteen gay rights activists handcuffed themselves to the White House fence Monday afternoon, calling for President Barack Obama to work harder for repeal of the "don't ask, don't tell" ban on gay service members serving openly.
Former Army Lt. Dan Choi, the Iraq war veteran and West Point graduate who has become the face of the movement to remove the ban, led the midday protest on the opening day of the lame-duck session of Congress, to put pressure on Democrats and the president to jettison the law before January.
Choi and others repeatedly shouted, "I am somebody! I deserve full equality!" as U.S. Park Police approached each protester with a huge pair of red shears. One by one, the police cut through the handcuffs that attached protesters' feet and wrists to the front gate of the White House.
The protesters were bound with plastic ties and carried across the sidewalk to Pennsylvania Avenue where they were arrested and detained. U.S. Park Police officers on horses and U.S. Secret Service uniformed officers lined up on Pennsylvania Avenue in front of the White House, creating a barricade for about 75 onlookers, many supportive of the protesters.
Several taunted the president, calling for him to come out of the White House and display more courage supporting equal rights for gays. One man shouted, "President Obama is afraid to act."
The president, meanwhile, was holding private meetings with nothing public on his schedule. It was a relatively quiet day for Obama, after returning Sunday from a grueling 10-day trip overseas.
As the gay advocates were dragged away from the gate, Choi and the other service members chanted, "Let us serve! Get visible! Get equal! "
One of those arrested was a Catholic priest, the Rev. Geoff Farrow, who has spoken in favor of same sex marriage.
For Choi and four other veterans, this was not their first time arrested in front of the White House. They carried out the same act of civil disobedience back in March to fight for gay service members.
cnn.com

A gay NASCAR fan is finding a growing audience online


Michael Myers grew up in Spartanburg, S.C., the middle of Nascar country, but his parents were not stock-car-racing fans, so he was not one, either. He went to his first race, the 1998 Coca-Cola 600 at Charlotte Motor Speedway, because he received free tickets.

But Myers said he became an unabashed fan over the next four or five years, and in September 2009, he started a racing Web site different from most others. Queers4Gears.com, he announced, would be an online home for gay Nascar fans.

Myers, 37, who lives in Las Vegas, is keeping his day job as a sales manager. But his Web site has found a modest audience of race fans, gay and straight. He said the site had averaged about 2,000 unique visitors a month.

“Nascar has more fans who are accepting of me being gay than gays have been accepting of me being a Nascar fan,” Myers said in a recent telephone interview.

He still wants gay racing fans to know they are not alone. In fact, he made what he thought was Nascar history by arranging a ticket discount for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender fans to Sunday’s Sprint Cup race at Phoenix International Raceway.

“Just that alone, just sticking that on the Web site, says volumes to the gay community,” Myers said.

The deal, which is available to anyone through Queers4Gears, is among about 200 group ticket specials for the race weekend, said Paul Corliss, a track spokesman. About 50 to 100 people were expected to take advantage of the discount, which ranged from $7 to $18 a ticket, depending on seat location. For some, it may be an introduction to Nascar racing.

“As race promoters, we are always interested in opportunities to reach potential fans and introduce them to the excitement of our Nascar events,” Corliss said.

The ticket offer was a triumph of sorts for Myers, who as a part-time journalist is trying to get the word out to gay Nascar fans that they are not alone.

It is no secret that attendance at Sprint Cup races is lagging. Tracks are becoming more creative: Richmond International Raceway, for example, will allow fans to carry in soft-sided coolers that hold up to 36 beverage cans next season; the previous limit was six cans.

Nascar applauded Phoenix’s ticket offer through Queers4Gears, which Myers began to arrange when he was at the track in the spring to cover a Sprint Cup race for his site.

Andrew Giangola, a Nascar spokesman, said: “Nascar is a sport open to everyone, and we market it very broadly, as opposed to specific demographic segments. For example, while women make up 40 percent of the Nascar fan base, we position the sport more generally to all sports fans and would-be fans.”

Queers4Gears is not the only car Web site for gay men and lesbians, but it seems to be carrying the most momentum. Myers’s tongue-in-cheek “gaynalyses” of each race refers to drivers as divas and leans hard on the soap-opera-style drama of the sport. But he also writes standard recaps of every Sprint Cup race.

He also wants to keep the site lighthearted and fun. Some readers expected Myers to comment when Dr. James Dobson, the founder of Focus on the Family, whom many regard as antigay, delivered the invocation before an August race in Atlanta. Myers chose not to.

“I’ve been so encouraged by the acceptance that I’ve gotten, I don’t want to upset the pot, so to speak,” Myers said.

He has drawn notice from the mainstream news media, and his Queers4Gears Twitter account has more than 1,300 followers. But two accounts that Myers set up anonymously each have more followers. When Kyle Busch, a tempestuous 25-year-old Sprint Cup driver, talked early in the season about softening his abrasive personality, Myers created @oldkylebusch and @newkylebusch on Twitter to poke fun at Busch.

On Halloween, @oldkylebusch posted: “No KyBu Pumpkin this year. I was trying to carve it when it bumped me — so I smashed it into the wall.”

Myers was found to be the author of the posts, and Queers4Gears drew more attention. This, Myers figured, made his Web site more legitimate (not to mention more visible to potential advertisers).

He acknowledges that gay male race fans are attracted to stock car drivers the way straight female race fans are, but his agenda seems to be much simpler.

Race fans, no matter their sexual preference, just like to watch races.

“I’m not there to ask drivers about what they think about gay marriage,” Myers said. “I’m there to ask them about racing.”

DAVE CALDWELL
The New York Times...

New York Times profiles Queers4Gears



Queers4Gears founder Michael Myers
Queers4Gears, the website for gay NASCAR fans, got a cool front page writeup in the Sunday New York Times Sports section, which focused on the site getting a group discount for tickets to Sunday’s race in Phoenix.
The deal, which is available to anyone through Queers4Gears, is among about 200 group ticket specials for the race weekend, said Paul Corliss, a track spokesman. About 50 to 100 people were expected to take advantage of the discount, which ranged from $7 to $18 a ticket, depending on seat location. For some, it may be an introduction to Nascar racing.
“As race promoters, we are always interested in opportunities to reach potential fans and introduce them to the excitement of our Nascar events,” Corliss said.
The ticket offer was a triumph of sorts for [website owner Michael] Myers, who as a part-time journalist is trying to get the word out to gay Nascar fans that they are not alone.
It is an interesting and positive article that focuses on a real sports niche — gay NASCAR fans, but all the free publicity might have been a mixed blessing in one sense: When I clicked on the site just now, virtually all the photos are unviewable, with a message from PhotoBucket saying the bandwidth was exceeded (though you can seeone of their hot auto photos on an Outsports posting from this spring).
outsports.com


'Glee's' Jane Lynch Is 'Queen Of The Gays,' Says Ryan Murphy



 
PUBLISHED: NOVEMBER 15, 2010
Glee creator Ryan Murphy has labeled Jane Lynch “queen of the gays.”
Lynch, who stars as sharp-tongued coach Sue Sylvester on the Fox
 musical-comedy, was honored Saturday for her work with the L.A.
“What a year Jane Lynch is having,” Murphy told the crowd. “She's 
won every award possible, topped by her Emmy. She got marriage and
 had a child and most importantly, she became queen of the gays.”
Murphy added that he “always knew that Jane Lynch would be more
 popular than chocolate.”
In presenting Lynch with the center's Rand Schrader Distinguished 
Achievement Award, Matthew Morrison, who plays Will Schuester on 
Glee, said Lynch “has served as a valuable role model.”
“I'm not an activist,” the openly lesbian Lynch said in accepting the
 award. “I'm too lazy and narcissistic. I am by nature, however,
 a complainer. I get lots of energy from that. I'm a bloated armchair warrior
 with a lot of opinions, a lot of answers, no inclination to do anything. 
But I do care. That's why I write checks.”
“Being gay and the journey of coming to terms with it and finally 
embracing it, shouting it out turns out to be the biggest blessing of my
 life,” she added. “And look! I got an award for it!”
BY ON TOP MAGAZINE STAFF

Dallas Gay Couple Marries Over Skype




PUBLISHED: NOVEMBER 15, 2010
Gay couple Mark Reed and Dante Walkup married on the Internet after
 a 10 year engagement.
The men exchanged vows in Dallas, Texas, where gay marriage is banned,
 via a Skype call that connected them to Sheila Alexander-Reid, who
 officiated their wedding from the District of Columbia. Gay marriage
 became legal in the nation's capital in March.
Before the wedding, the men traveled to D.C. to register their marriage,
 but said they wanted to hold their ceremony in Dallas.
“The reason we wanted to do it this way is because we wanted to have
 a wedding here in Dallas with our family and friends,” Reed told gay 
weekly the Dallas Voice. “It was very important that all our family came.”
The couple held their wedding in a conference room at the W Hotel, 
where they exchanged vows in front of a 6-by-8 foot screen illuminated 
with the image from the teleconference call.
“When we walked down the aisle, as soon as we reached the front, she [Alexander-Reid] comes on the screen like The Wizard of Oz,” 
Reed said. “It was beautiful. It wasn't make believe. It was like she 
was really there.” (A short video of the couple's wedding is embedded in 
the right panel of this page.)
Such Internet-based ceremonies are called e-marriages, and Reed and
 Walkup are currently lobbying lawmakers in states where gay marriage 
is legal to codify the practice to ensure such marriages are legal.
BY ON TOP MAGAZINE STAFF 

November 14, 2010

Spotlight: Same-Sex Marriage- State Count




Gay-marriage supporters outside the courthouse.
Marcio Jose Sanchez / AP

 
When California voters quashed the state's court-ordered experiment with same-sex marriage in 2008, gay advocates vowed to fight on. Their latest battleground: a San Francisco courtroom, where a judge will weigh in on the controversial Proposition 8--and hand down the first federal ruling on whether the U.S. Constitution forbids state bans on same-sex marriage.
If California's law is found to violate the 14th Amendment (which guarantees due process and equal protection), it could threaten anti-gay-marriage statutes well beyond the Golden State. Since November, laws supporting same-sex unions have passed in Washington, D.C., but have been defeated in Maine, New Jersey and New York. Whichever way the decision goes, an eventual appeal to the U.S. Supreme Court is a virtual certainty.
Note: Nine states appear twice; they allow civil unions or other rights but prohibit same-sex marriages
New Mexico, New York and Rhode Island neither specifically prohibit nor allow same-sex marriages or unions
The D.C. law is pending congressional approval
Courts vs. Voters
If California's stance on gay marriage is settled in a courtroom, it won't be the first state to go that route. In three of the five states that allow such unions, marriage rights were ultimately granted from the bench, not by popular vote or legislation. No state that now sanctions gay marriage has legalized it via referendum.
[The following text appears within a chart. Please see hardcopy or PDF for actual chart.]
6 Allow same-sex marriage
NEWHAMPSHIRE
CONNECTICUT
MASSACHUSETTS
VERMONT
IOWA
WASHINGTON, D.C.
10 Allow same-sex unions or grant other rights
WISCONSIN
OREGON
NEWJERSEY
NEVADA
HAWAII
WASHINGTON
COLORADO
CALIFORNIA
MARYLAND
MAINE
41 Prohibit same-sex marriage
PENNSYLVANIA
ILLINOIS
HAWAII
MARYLAND
WEST VIRGINIA
INDIANA
NORTH CAROLINA
MAINE
WYOMING
WASHINGTON
CALIFORNIA
ALASKA
OREGON
NEVADA
MONTANA
COLORADO
ARIZONA
DELAWARE
MINNESOTA
TENNESSEE
MISSOURI
MISSISSIPPI
VIRGINIA
SOUTH CAROLINA
FLORIDA
GEORGIA
OHIO
MICHIGAN
KENTUCKY
ALABAMA
WISCONSIN
ARKANSAS
LOUISIANA
NORTH DAKOTA
KANSAS
OKLAHOMA
TEXAS
IDAHO
SOUTH DAKOTA
NEBRASKA
UTAH


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